actions taken in the Limitless Lifestyle
are designed to improve the quality of your life. The end result of this
process is to help everyone reach a happy and healthy state of mind. If you learn not to set restrictions regarding
what you want to accomplish, there is nothing to stop you from reaching your
SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS.
HOW WE ACT DAY TO DAY
is asked if they are happy, the answer to family and friends can be somewhat
negative or masked by a standard answer. Nobody wants to be known as a complainer. People who are always negative or who
constantly gripe about their life get a reputation as an unhappy person. People feel sorry for them and in some cases
try to avoid contact with that person.
In order to avoid this, people start providing a standard response when
asked, “how are you doing” or “how was your day.” Regardless of how we feel, the response of
“great” or “fantastic” might be given.
It is easier to provide a positive answer than identify what is
that part of the purpose of asking another person if they are happy is designed
to compare another person’s level of happiness to their own. Since we are not sure about the things that
make us happy, we search for a comparison in others. We are
not only looking for happiness for ourselves but for the people we care
about. There are often aspects of our
life we would like to change or improve.
However, we may not know how to make the needed change.
A QUEST TO BE LIMITLESS
I have been
on a quest to improve my life and find happiness. People would have looked at my life years ago
and would likely say that there was nothing wrong with it. I had a good job, house, car, friends and
family. The problem was that I had
achieved every goal that I had set for myself.
Suddenly I had no direction or goals. I had lost my passion for life,
and was just not happy about anything. I
was not only complaisant with my life but had developed all sorts of fears and
restrictions on my activities. My
priorities were looking after family and friends instead of myself. I could come up with so many reasons to say
no to an activity or an opportunity to meet new people. I realized that in many cases, my choice had
been to take the safe road. Whether this
was to protect what I had achieved or driven by fear of failing, I did not know
at the time. What I knew was that my
current course of action was not making me happy.
I started comparing notes with friends to find
out who else was searching for something more.
I needed to know if they had life plans and dreams. The question of whether or not we had found
happiness was taken to a new level. The discovery was that we were all questioning
what we had achieved and the state of our lives. Many of us had lost direction and were just
living in “auto pilot’ on a daily basis.
It appeared that many of our
goals had been accepted based on what society or our family had promoted. Many of us were purchasing our ticket to
happiness through the acquisition of things.
After all, how could you not be happy with a big house, fancy car and
toys or trips to enjoy? Then something interesting happened. There were some people that were still
working away as some of their goals.
When they spoke about achieving these goals, they beamed with pride. These same people pointed out that a person
should aim big and always have goals they want to reach. When they asked me to come up with some new
goals, I had no idea how to respond. Somehow,
I had only planned goals up to a certain point. The goals I had set 20 years ago, were supposed
to fill my lifetime. As time passed, I
settled for what I had and made no further plans to change anything. Setting new goals was lost while I was pursuing
my existing goals. I had also been sold
and readily accepted goals promoted by others.
I did not
know even where to begin or how to establish a new set of goals. My challenge was to figure out; what I
wanted, what would make me happy and how to reach a new set of goals. Being a logical person, I needed a
process. With the help of friends and a
great deal of discussion, a process began to form.
I had to find
a systematic approach to determining what I wanted and some method to help
formulate my wants into goals. Having fallen into the trap of limited goals, a
new approach was needed. I had to ask
myself why there would be limits or restrictions on goals or even the number of
goals people set for themselves. The
approach that everyone should “go big or stay home” stuck in my head. I knew that this concept had to be applied to
setting new goals. This is how the steps
to becoming limitless were established.
It is an ongoing process that has to be checked and maintained. Becoming “limitless” is not a quick fix. This is a process that changes as you undertake
it and provides results on a daily, weekly and yearly basis.
The good news is that I did make
changes to my life. I now have a
limitless number of goals and a method of achieving those goals.
I have interesting adventures and meet incredible people that share my
passion for life. My cup is no longer
half empty. Instead, it is half
full. Each day presents opportunities to
meet new people or participate in some type of activity.
The message to readers is to wake up
and start living. Evaluate your life and
make changes to aspects of your life you do not like. Take action instead of being a
bystander. Searching, setting goals and working toward
happiness every day works.
limitless and having the mindset to go after your goals and dreams.
There are countless times during any given day that we take an action that we think will make us happy. We are constantly bombarded with media promoting happiness through the purchase of some article or activity. Many forms of media, including television, magazines and movies portray people who have money, relationships and good looks as being happy. Society has created a personification of perfection for men and women to achieve. Finding or achieving a happy life has been defined for us.