- SELF EXAMINATION
- DETERMINE GOALS
- SETTING OUT A PLAN
- CHALLENGE EVERYTHING
- DETERMINE PITFALLS
- REALITY CHECK
JUST THE 1ST STEP;
SELF EXAMINATION is a challenging process to complete. In essence the process requires that each person question everything about their lives. The focus should be on the things that are causing the most unhappiness.
The entire process requires being totally honest with yourself. You have to ask yourself what actually makes you happy. Making a list helps but is not a requirement. There has been a series of choices that have brought you to this point in your life. Challenging your principles, morals, ethics, ideas and relationships, requires that you ask yourself hard questions. The intent is to find answers and initiate change.
Aspects of this process can be restricted by what your family or friends think. Attempt to explain to your friends and family what you are trying to do. Remember, this stage is strictly your thoughts without any input from others. As stated before, those close to you will not only understand but help keep you on track should you lose your way.
DETERMINING GOALS will be based on what makes you happy. Again, a list is a handy tool but not a requirement. There is no limit to the number of goals you create. Remember to think big and in the long term of your life. Your goals can be determined simply by listing the things that make you unhappy and want to change. Taking the reverse approach will identify aspects of your life you want to change. If completed, these aspects will give you a starting point toward finding happiness. The other approach is to think about things that make you smile to yourself or give you a feeling of satisfaction. Once the goal is established, you can complete sub-goals that will move you toward your overall goal.
SETTING OUT A PLAN. Let us look at the goal of climbing Mount Everest which will represent a major long term goal. A person who establishes this goal must review or question everything they are doing. Nothing may change, if they complain about being out of shape but spend the day watching television. Every action you take causes a reaction. This is basic physics.
As an example; Climbing Mount Everest requires a number of actions. You may need to get in shape, save the money (as it costs between $40,000.00 to $50,000.00) and get the time off work or away from the family. There can be other aspects to making this goal come true. However, the above are three examples of what may need to happen to achieve the main goal. Therefore, the mini-goals might be;
- Get in better physical shape,
- Save or obtain the funding,
- Plan for time off work,
- Notify your family of the plan.
If the same person establishes a plan to start walking, running or cycling, there will be a change in their physical condition. In this example, the process does not expect or recommend climbing a mountain right away. In most cases, people will have to work toward or ease into their goal. Whatever steps are taken will result in some degree of change.
It is important to get out in the world with family and friends to experience life.
Play, laugh, joke, dream, dance etc. Stop being so serious and have some fun.
We do not stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing.
Whatever your age, there should be nothing stopping you from discovering yourself and the world around you. Life should be an experience.