There are some basic steps to becoming limitless:

1.        Self examination and confirming what you have today.
2.        Determining what you still want or what makes you happy.
3.        Establishing what stops you from reaching goals.
4.        Communicating with family and friends.
5.        Sorting, setting and moving towards your goals.
6.        Recognizing pit falls that slow you down.
7.        Challenging rules
8.        Reality check.  (This one is ongoing - it never ends.)


Excuses hold us back from reaching our goals.  At any given time, most people can convince
themselves not to do something based on excuses.   You don’t have to be reckless or
careless about the things you do.  However, you should take calculated risks to change your
life.  Try something new or out of your comfort zone.  Calculate the risk and take the
necessary precautions to do it safely.  

At any given time, you might THINK you are too tired, too old, not good enough or just not
able to do something.  My experience has been that everyone learns and accomplishes
things at a different pace.  Be patient with yourself and take whatever activity you are trying
to complete at your own pace.  It took me a long time to get the ability to cycle for more than
2 hours or go up hills.  In time, it came and I now have the ability to cycle for a day.  It has
taken me 4 years of hard work to rock climb more difficult climbs.  When I started climbing, my
body complained A LOT.   It has taken many talks to myself and with my friends to keep me
going.  You don’t have to take a “hard core” approach to getting active.  You will be surprised
that you will progress and be able to do more each time you try.   Frustration will be part of
it.  Work past it and I promise you that it will make a difference.

SELF EXAMINATION (Confirming what you have today)

This is a difficult process to complete.  In essence, we must challenge everything about our
lives.  It is a process that requires total honesty with yourself and others.  Self examination is
the starting point.  This part of the process begins with a list detailing four items, which
include; what you need, what you want, your current goals, and what steps have you taken to
reach your current goals.

When listing what you need, think in terms of what you really need versus what you want.  
There is an important difference between the two.  Some people want; a big house, two cars,
trips around the world, clothes from designer shops and bigger televisions.  The question is,
do you really need these things?   If you truly need these things, at some point you have to
ask yourself why.  

Consider that most people need food, shelter and security.   In basic terms, we need enough
food to keep us from starving and some type of shelter that keeps us warm and dry.  Security
is a difficult basic need to identify.  What makes one person feel secure may not be what
another requires.  Every individual has to establish what level of food and shelter they
require.  Most people would like an adequate amount of food and the opportunity to enjoy
some of the extra’s that life can provide.  Remember that excess amounts of anything may be
something you want but don’t need.

Personal security is the protection of yourself and/or your family/friends.  It relates to
protection from violence or dangers that can affect personal well being.  Security comes from
building supports that shield you from danger.  This can be simply by cultivating good
relationships with family and friends.  Security is also linked to beliefs.  Strong beliefs have
also helped many people feel secure.  

The limitless life style is promoting that you examine your life.  Take what is good and expand
on it.  Set some goals that are going to improve your life.  Your first task is to clearly identify
and expand on the four areas mentioned.   This process is designed to take stock of your
life.  As stated, it should establish your needs versus wants.  This is necessary to know what
aspects of your life you want to improve.  The process will also help you confirm and be
grateful for the good things in your life.  The results of the self examination will form the basis
for your current and future goals.


At this point you have determined what is good in your life and what you still want to achieve.  
It may still represent your goals in very basic terms but you now have a frame of reference.   
We can easily lose track of what makes us happy and grateful.  Taking stock helps us to
remember.  Gratitude for the things that are good in your life is very important.

Using the list of needs (or wants) your goals are laid out in front of you.  It is now time to
determine the priority of your goals.  

Remember the basic aspect of this process is designed to find what makes you happy.   You
are not considering what makes your spouse, partner, children or friends happy.   This
exercise is for you and is an attempt to get back on track.

Many people have commented about losing themselves in the day to day care of their
children.  You have spent so much time making sure that they are happy, your needs, goals
and actions have taken a back seat.  Letting go, setting priorities and reaching some or all of
your goals will make you happy. There is no limit on the number of goals that you establish.  
Whether it is only a few goals or many goals, you should establish the order of priority.  

It is not even important to call your actions goals.  Do not get them confused with new years
resolutions.  You can call them simply, things you want to do.   Make your goals realistic and
achievable.  Remember that you do not have to reach your ultimate goal all at once.  The
ultimate goal can be created and attained in stages.  This way it is manageable and

Why wait until the end of your life and establish a bucket list.  If you have goals but do
nothing to achieve them, you are not going to find happiness.  Even small steps toward your
goals will give you that happy feeling.  You will have something to look forward to and will be
satisfied that you are taking steps toward your goal(s).


Every aspect of our lives can be improved through good communication.  To achieve the
limitless life style, communication is essential to identify your goals and to let people know
what you are doing.  The key is to learn how to communicate properly.  

When changing your life, people have to understand why you are taking action.  Failing to
communicate during this process leaves friends and family confused.  Without an explanation
they can be threatened by the change(s) they see.   There is a need to explain that this
process is about you, not a reflection of your dissatisfaction with them.

Communication is based on speaking and listening.  The aspect of listening is a key to your
success. Think about having a 10 minute rule.  When someone is talking to you, give them
the courtesy of listening for 5 to 10 minutes.  At that point, think and respond to them.  This
shows that you respect their opinion or thought.  You can then truly hear what they have to
say and respond with your thoughts or questions to clarify what they have stated.  This is a
learning process for you, your family and friends.

Discussion between two people should be frank.  Do not judge or assume you know what is
being communicated.  If you can do this, you can gain an understanding of what the other
person thinks.  The limitless life style requires that we challenge everything.  Opening
yourself up to another person’s views may help you see something that you did not realize
when you set your goals or an aspect of your personality that you may have ignored.   This
process can also remove the anger aspect to a discussion.  We may not always like what a
person is saying but part of this challenge is to listen and learn.  Try not to react with anger.  
A limitless person is open to new ideas.   These ideas are then incorporated into our goals
and this process.

Communicating what you are trying to achieve helps to clarify things.  It also confirms that
your goals are real.  When you tell a friend or family member that your goal is to see the
Great Wall of China, they are going to respond and likely support your dream.  The goal then
becomes a reality.  Family and friends may start checking to see how it is going and what you
have done to reach your goal.  Someone close to you may want to join in.  Their reminders
can offer support for your goals and can give you the boost you need to ensure you keep
forging ahead.   

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Steve M Nash is a certified transformative coach.  He is not a fan of stories, it seems. Which is
why he has found it difficult to share his story, even to himself.

He wrote:

But it’s become a little clearer to me, recently – a little simpler – and so I write this summary of
who I am, and how I got to be writing these very words to you, just so you know that it hasn’t
always been easy for me. And it still often isn’t. Easy. (Sound familiar?)   I shall start with this
inspirational quote that has inspired and guided me since 2008…

“You can’t teach anybody anything, only make them realize the answers are already inside
them.” – Galileo Galilei