I have discovered that men and women over 50 have notions about people between the ages of 20 and 30.  I have heard, comments such as what do they know, they have no experience, why should I listen to them, they don’t know anything, their life is so easy, they don’t have problems. Now having said that, some 20 – 30 year olds, want nothing to do with people over 50. They tell me that they act old, they have too many opinions and don’t listen to anything they don’t want to hear.

There are far too many people who are discriminating against people they THINK are too old or too young.   Anyone who thinks this way is missing great opportunities to enjoy activities, conversation and
friendships/relationships with someone who is in a different age group.

I am writing this to recommend that readers stop the preconceived notions. You do not know what any person can offer unless you take the time to get to know them. I have found that regardless of age, so many people have great ideas and want to share all kinds of activities and experiences.

The other important fact that many young adults are looking for is a MENTOR.   I was surprised to find out how many younger adults feel that they have nobody in their corner.  Many of them are looking for someone to believe in them. WHO HAVE YOU MENTORED?


Everyone has a set of core beliefs or values that define you as a human being.  Whether these are from your background, family, heritage, nationality or experience, they represent the key aspects of your personality. 

At an early age parents communicate beliefs or values to their children.  It is a parent’s job to teach their children about society and life in general.  Society also defines and communicates some basic values that have been accepted by the majority of people.  Whether right or wrong for you as an individual, these become part of your personality.  They are reflected in the activities and actions of your day to day life.  Core beliefs and values determine who you are and what you represent.    As stated, it is communicated by the choices you make in dealing with others.    The point to consider is, do we make choices based on automatic responses or careful thought.  Some core values are so embedded in our personality that they become automatic.   We no longer think things through.  Instead, we just react to a situation or individual.

There is a philosophy that life is a series of choices that determine your future.  Every time you make a decision, it is based on making a choice between at least two alternatives.  Even the choice to do nothing has an effect on the direction of your life.

This is an explanation of human behavior developed by Dr. William Glasser, M.D.

The Ten Axioms of Choice Theory

  1. The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
  2. All we can give another person is information.
  3. All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
  4. The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
  5. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
  6. We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
  7. All we do is behave.
  8. All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology.
  9. All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
  10. All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable.