HELPING OTHERS – Limitless Lifestyle

While it is wonderful to work on your goals and objectives we should not overlook the needs of others. In particular the needs of those who may need emotional or physical support. I have observed a disturbing trend that there are a number of people who ignore those less fortunate or those in need of assistance. I am not talking about giving money to people on the street. I understand that is it hard to determine who needs money , so that one is a personal choice. I am however, concerned at the number of people who can pass someone in a cast, having trouble walking, cannot cross the road, getting up off the ground or a chair or cannot reach something in a store. The kind act of helping people in this situation does not cost anything but may mean a lot to the person you are helping. Last week in the grocery store, I passed a man trying to get up from the bench. I stopped, asked him if he needed a hand to get up. He said, “oh yes thank you.” I did not do this for a reward or to get something from him. I believe that these small simple acts help you with your goals and objectives and confirm your core values.

A guote – “Great acts are made up of small deeds.” “Goodness is the only investment that never fails.” “As we serve others we are working on ourselves; every act, every word, every gesture of genuine compassion naturally nourishes our own hearts as well.

FATE VS CHOICES

FATE VS CHOICES:

I strongly believe that every choice you make affects your life.  There have been many heated discussions regarding fate vs choice.  While fate can play a part in your life and does exist, I insist that choice is a major factor on how your life turns out. 

One discussion related to a son stating that he could not help the way he was acting, because his father was the same way.  He firmly felt that the genetics passed from his father to him, dictated how he would act in relationships. 

In this type of case, a child observes their parents actions and models their behavior based on what they see.  Daily responses and actions become the norm.  Since we have no other comparison or example, the fathers personality traits can easily be passed on to a son or daughter. 

The argument that I present is the fact that you still have a choice.  At some point in your life you have the maturity to make an intelligent decision.   I could have become my father or make the choice to be different. 

The limitless process of challenging everything in your life, makes you think.   You have been hard wired to make some choices without thinking about them.  This is not your fault.  Since an early age, you observed certain behavior that you copied.  As the normal example of how to act, you accepted it without question.  At this stage in your life, you can use logic to evaluate your automatic actions/reactions.  Once examined, you can choose to keep or discard them.  If you are aware of an automatic response that is not improving your life and may in fact be causing problems, you can change it. 

Take a simple case of reacting to someone making a comment that is designed to make you feel bad about yourself.  You have a choice to accept what is being said or reject it because in your heart you know it is not true.  In this case, people will make negative comments about you or your life.  That is a reality.  If you accept those comments without question, your self esteem may wither away.

You have to consider that people make comment about others for a variety of reasons.  It may be to make themselves feel better about their own life.  The comment may be made simply because they are in a bad mood at that moment.  The point is that you have the choice of accepting or rejecting what other say.  It is important to learn about yourself.  Something to remember is that you need enjoy your own company.  Liking yourself and enjoying your own company gives you freedom and strength.

Strength comes from knowing yourself and your core beliefs.  When you know yourself, comments from others can be received with a reasonable perspective. 

Consider that you have been working for a year to get in shape when someone comments that you look fat.   Based on the mental work you have completed, the effect of such a comment is minimal.  You like yourself and the way you look.  They may have any number of reasons for their comment.  You have the choice to consider or discard it.  The effect of that comment is therefore minimal rather than devastating. 

Everyone is looking for a method to improve their life and find the key to a happy existence. 

The limitless lifestyle is designed to examine your life, make changes and work toward establishing your personal happiness.  This is done by setting goals and working toward the achievement of each of those goals.  Whether these are small or big goals does not matter.  

Consider a person who complains about their relationship with their wife, husband or partner.   They are constantly telling others that they fight all the time, do not go anywhere together and they just do not feel the same way as when they met.  Complaining to others does not solve or change the situation.  There has to be some type of action between two people in a relationship.  Unless you do something different, nothing will change.   This is also the point where your core beliefs come into play.  In this example, consider that the person complaining about their relationship has been raised with the belief that women are weak and cannot be expected to participate in a man’s world. 

There is no thought process in this statement.  It is likely a core value that has been passed on by family or experience.  This creates an excuse for their complaint and will justify why nothing can change.   Without challenging this established value, there is no hope for change. 

When we were children, adults often asked us what we wanted to be or do when we grew up.  We may have responded with; fireman, doctor, dancer or race care driver.  Looking at your life now, you work five to six days a week, clean your house, take care of kids or pets, go shopping and watch television.  In the back of your mind or late at night, you dream of the passion you had as a child. 

At 20, 30 or 40 years of age, what is stopping you from being a skydiver, dancer or race car driver?  Whether you take it up as a sport or exercise activity, it does not matter.  If you want to be a dancer, then take lessons.  Once you have done that, join a local theatre group or dance group.   If you want to race cars or be in a demolition derby, make it happen.  There are steps to take that will help you reach the goal.  Take a new approach, work toward what you want by taking one step at a time.  Make time for yourself and plan on reaching that goal you set as a child.  Following specific steps will help an individual reach their potential.  You do not have to reach your ultimate goal right away.  You can take steps toward that goal and feel so much better about everything.

MALE ISSUES WITH AGING – THE PRESSURE

Very good article that confirms the power you have if you stay positive.

Men Have a Harder Time With Aging Than People Thought.

Gordon Hurd – YAHOO ARTICLE

Frail, powerless, alone. Mention any of these words to an average guy — particularly a man in a certain age range — and you might see him shudder. It’s fair to assume that few people — male or female — look forward to getting older, but men in particular are finding it difficult to deal with. In fact, it’s the very ideals of masculinity that make aging difficult for many men.

Hiking in Arizona at my age.

“Manly” stereotypes can lead to lonely and difficult years for men as they age.  According to an article in the Wall Street Journal, these masculine ideals are creating distinct challenges for men as life expectancy increases and gender roles continue to evolve in society. Trying to hold on too dearly to “manly” stereotypes can lead to painful, lonely, and difficult years for men as they age. In response, many in the research, medical, and psychology fields are seeking new ways to help men grow old healthfully and change their ideas of what it means to be a man in their twilight years.

Research on men and aging looks at the concept of “masculine norms,” of which there are 11 typically cited. As the WSJ article highlights, these are some of the key aspects of masculinity that men tend to want to hold on to as they age — notably, physical strength, self-reliance, taking risks, and emotional control. And while the WSJ article explored these concepts among experts and subjects in their later years, these fears and anxieties about aging can pop up long before retirement is even on the horizon.

Ultimately, it comes down to a feeling of a loss of control,” Laura Hsu, an assistant professor at Merrimack College whose research explores the psychological process of aging and how it can affect physical and mental health. “The norms of masculinity have an undercurrent of being in control and having some element of power, including a feeling of power and control over their own decisions, physical fitness, and ability to generate an income. When one’s body or social position can no longer reinforce those feelings, increasing feelings of helplessness can ultimately take a toll on one’s mental and physical health.”

Yahoo explored this topic with a few middle-aged men to see how deeply these concerns resonated. “It’s the ongoing ‘breakdown’ of my body that I notice and dread,” explains Robert Haynes-Paterson, a 51-year-old writer based in New York City. “I’m healthy so far: no prescription meds, no heart trouble, etc. But I notice how much things have changed in the past couple of years — hair thinning, strength diminishing, muscles randomly pulling for no major reason.”    “The physical stuff — that’s what worries me a great deal,” chimes in Greg Simms Jr., a writer based in Ohio. “For years — from age 38 and back — I thought I was invincible. Now, at the age of 43, I realize, starkly, that I’m mortal.”   For Bart Irace, 45, a project manager who lives in Brooklyn, the importance of work in a man’s life is top of mind. “A change to active working life concerns me the most at the moment,” says Irace. “With the exception of senior executives, age is not typically seen as an asset, and aging workers are eased, or in some cases forced, out of their positions. I hope that I’m about 10 years away from advanced age making me a target for job loss, but in the meantime I’m trying to prepare for the possibility by thinking of occupations and/or skills that are more immune to this pattern.”

When queried on what they’re doing to combat their aging woes, most of the men we spoke to confessed that it takes a great deal of focus and thinking about consequences. Says Simms, “Since I can’t drink my misery away, I’m being more healthy all around. I’m eating clean meals, trying my best to stay away from fast food. I’m also working out at a gym, and walking outside when I can. My aim isn’t to look sexy for the summer … I’m working out so I don’t drop dead.”

So despite the very real physical effects of getting older, it appears that mental fortitude may be the ultimate defense for men (and women) against the frailties of getting older. Something that men, no matter where they fall on the spectrum of masculinity, should be able to get their heads around. Fear is, after all, merely a state of mind.

 MINDFULLNESS???

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Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you focus on being intensely aware of what you’re sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgment. Practicing mindfulness involves breathing methods, guided imagery, and other practices to relax the body and mind and help reduce stress.

Spending too much time planning, problem-solving, daydreaming, or thinking negative or random thoughts can be draining. It can also make you more likely to experience stress, anxiety and symptoms of depression. Practicing mindfulness exercises can help you direct your attention away from this kind of thinking and engage with the world around you.

Mindfulness is the cognitive skill of sustaining meta-awareness on the contents of one’s own mind (e.g. sensations, perceptions, emotions, thoughts etc.) in the present-moment without conceptual reification.  The practice of mindfulness meditation refers to the recurrent training of one’s attention to reorient whenever it acquiesces to its opposite, absent-mindedness. Mindfulness derives from sati, a significant element of Hindu and Buddhist traditions, and is based on ZenVipassanā, and Tibetan meditation techniques. Though definitions and techniques of mindfulness are wide-ranging,] Buddhist traditions describe what constitutes mindfulness such as how past, present and future moments arise and cease as momentary sense impressions and mental phenomena.

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SELF HELP /SELF IMPROVEMENT

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FINDING YOUR LIMITLESS LIFESTYLE.

Changing your life and making it better is not just a New Years Resolution. The limitless lifestyle website is designed to teach, motivate and help individuals establish goals that will help them improve their life. Follow the steps of the program and watch things improve.

Your age, status, or wealth does not define who you are or what you can and cannot do. There are no limits to what you can accomplish if you want to make changes in your life. Aim for something big and work toward it every day.



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